Wednesday, October 12, 2011


               When some one says their kid refuses to go to school you may think of Schoolitis. With schoolitis kids will play sick, don't confuse this with what I said in my post School Refusal. I have seen schoolitis faces and school refusal faces. Schoolitis is a normal face of a hidden face, the child will cover their face. School refusal the child actually turns pail to white and the word fear is written all over their face.  With Schoolitis, the child may be being bullied, maybe the child has a weight issue, maybe it all started after they just got braces put on their teeth. Maybe they are just starting a new school. Maybe they are disabled and have to wear something like leg braces. Or just simply they have a lot of freckles or they have bucked teeth.
               I have looked and looked for the episode of the Bill Cosby cartoon show Little Bill where Little Bill is getting bulled and his father tells him to just say so to every thing the bully says. Well it took him a few to say it but he did and it made the bully run out of things to say so he stopped bullying Little Bill. I have tried to get my kids to do that but they wouldn't so I can't tell you if it really works or not. When I find it I will post a link for it so you all can see it.
              So most of the Schoolitis problem is Bullying by kids or even bullying by teachers. If the child is having a learning disability I have heard of teacher knocking down harder on them to do the work. Just talk to your child. They know.

Monday, August 29, 2011

School Refusal

School Refusal
    I am naming it the same as the Blog page because this is one of the names this problem is called.
    I would also like to let you know now, I will be also adding a link to another blog I will be setting up soon. That blog will be about our Homeschooling addventures.
    I have read in Wikipedia
That this problem occures in 1 to 5% of kids mostly ages 5,6,10 & 11.  Cody is 10, but was 9 when it all started.  School refusal could be a signe of a bigger problem.  It could be a sign of anxiety disorder, seperation anxiety, or panic disorders.
SCHOOL REFUSAL is not the same as TRUANCY!!!!
 According to a blog from Paediatric Pearls  The most common symtoms are anorexia, nausea, abdominal pain, feeling faint etc. Cody would have the nausea and abdominal pain eather at bed time or befor the bus or sometimes both times, but then he would be fine after the bus left with out him.

Monday, August 22, 2011

About us

    I am a mother of 4, 2 step girls ages 19 and 18, and 2 boys of our own ages 16 and 10. Back in January 2011 my youngest son Cody age 10 began to fight me to go to school.
It actually stared back in 2009 when his youngest half sister was sent to a children's home, and then a few months after his older half sister left home.  That all happened at the beginning of the year in March and April. He only fought me two times before school ended. One time he fought and when he got on the bus he sat on the steps the hole way to school. The second time I took him and he ran from the truck, I had to run and get him. When we got back to the school the school sheriff pulled up and offered to take him. After he was in the school he was fine.
For the 2009-2010 school year he would only fight me once every other moth, either getting him on the bus or bringing him in kicking and screaming. He also stopped going to the Wednesday night Word of Life club at our church. this link will tell you what The Word of Life club is.
    In March of 2010 his younger half sister was sent to a foster home closer to us. In August She cane home for good only to up and leave and move to her mothers house where she is now. At the beginning of the 2010-2011 school year his older half sister moved back home. Cody still fought me to go to school but now it was every other week. I had him see the school therapist. She could not tell me anything. His older half sister Left home again, can't remember what month though. This mad him fight once a week.  In January 2011, after Christmas break was the worst. Every day was a challenge. I had go in for meetings with the teachers and they had told me that he has never had problems with other kids. He was also a smart student. Some were around Feb. or March his older half sister moved back in. This was no help when I had to fight her just to get up out of bed for school.
    One day I thought he was going to give me a problem getting on the bus but he got on and I went to work just to be called and told that he was being suspended for 2 days because he ran from the bus at the school, whitch was a danger for the school.  He also began to refuse to go to his babysitters house. One day I was at work and my husband came to work and had Cody with him, saying His sitter would pick him up there. When she got there I fought him to get into the truck, I stoped thinking about when he ran from the bus at the school. I said don't worry about it he would be fine at the store with me. She is an older lady and I knew she would not have been able to catch him. A few later her naghbor, his friends mom came to the store to see if she could get him to come with her. He would not.
    In May the principal had had enough. One day I had brought him in kicking and screaming, his brother came out of gym class, carried him up stares. I was called at work 1 hours later just to be told he was still carrying on and now he was lifting chairs. The next week he went to school on the bus on Monday fine till he got to school and then ran. They caught him. The Principal said "if he is going to fight don't bring him in." I said to her in privet, "with you saying that in front of him I am not going to be able to get him to go now, can I get work sent home to him?" So we did his work at home, and I was able to take him in for 2 tests, the third one was a no go.
    I have decided to start homeschooling him this year. I was told he has passed to the 5th grade.

Whats the name

School Phobia
School Refusal

Call it what you will, but it is real. Not only do us adults have anxieties and fears, but children do also.
Normally these children are described by their families or by teachers as polite, inhibited and anxious.

Schoolitis is more of a problem for kids who get picked on alot, eather by bullies, or just unsensitive kids like towards heveyset kids. It is also common in kids who have bug tests- unstudied for, undone homework.

School refusal is more of a seperation anxiety problem.

Didaskaleinophpbia is a fear of going to school